Thursday, November 16, 2006

Need to vent...

I need to vent and since this is replacing my old journal, here it goes...
As usual it's my grandmother. For those who stumble across this or don't know me, she's 82, a widow, lost her only daughter (my mother) when she was only 44 to cancer, had back surgery this past spring and honestly physically can't fend for herself, used to being her own boss, obviously forgetful and this week the bane of my existence.

SO, in the past 2 months I have made numerous Dr. appointments for her to which I was going to take her and she had cancelled them or forced me to by refusing to go. Then she calls me a few days later to ask when her apt is and why it's taking so long for her to go. I have also cancelled her Satellite dish service (for an apt she no longer lives in) and she reinstated it. I cancelled her health club membership and she reinstated it. She got a friend to take her to the bank and she took out all her money so that me (and my father) don't steal it from her and opened another account with this friend and then calls us and asks us for $ for her meds. I cancelled her car insurance on the car that has been parked in front of her BIL's since February and probably won't even start. She reinstated it. Then since she took all the $ out of the checking account, all of these bills she reinstated have automatically debited the account and overdrawn it. Yesterday, she called and left me a message that she was having a heart attack. When I got the message, I calmly called the ALF where she is living and asked to speak to her. When I asked her what was wrong, she said nothing she just didn't know how to get me to call her unless she made it sound urgent. Mind you I speak to her daily. Regardless, she had forgotten why she called and would call me back when she remembered. She called this morning about 8:30 in the morning to see what time I was picking her up to go to the Dr. There is no apt. She got upset because she had cancelled the transport that normally takes her to therapy because she was going to the Dr. I have spoken to her twice since then. Once because she has no clothes, tomorrow she will naked if I don't take her clothes. The second because she was looking for a cardiologist because she needs to make sure she won't die of a heart attack.
I feel better now.
Gimme patience!


Hilda said...

There is nothing I can say to you that will make this better.

I can give you an anecdote from *yesterday*. After work we stopped by my mom's ALF to say hello to her, give her her 12 pack of Coca Cola and give her this week's "Hola" magazine (a magazine from Spain, sort of like People). This was at about 5 p.m.

We left at around 5:45 to run some errands. When I got home at 7 p.m. there was a message she had left me at 6:15 asking me if I remembered her, that in case I had forgotten she was my mother and that she couldn't remember the last time she had seen me. She asked me why I didn't love her after everything she had done for me. She then told me that abandoning one's parents is the sort of thing God punishes.

Can you spare some of that patience?

Dixie said...

I think your grandmother and my mother may be the same person. I know my mother drives my sister crazy in the same way.

sari said...

I'm sorry. This sounds like a tough situation.

I think I might possibly have a little extra patience today, I will send it your way with a hug.

Also, I think it's very beneficial to vent because you really just need to get that out.

I hope your day is better!